>>917100009Having a healthy, stable, and caring feminine counterpart in your life is awesome. I really enjoyed my life before my wife, but it is fair better now.
Net positives
- Having someone to talk with who knows me incredibly deeply. I am able to chat through problems and feeling related to fun parts of my life and very heavy parts as well. My mom died at the end of 2023 and my wife has been a huge help during the grieving process.
- Raising kids without my wife would be nearly impossible. No single parent can be as good as two healthy and engaged parents. It's not a matter of effort, it's just time and resources. We are also able to talk through parenting issues and we balance each other out. She is naturally nurturing. I tend to push the kids to learn and be independent. They need both.
- Her immediate and extended family are amazing. Having a strong family structure helps a lot with kids and provides them with more role models and cousins to socialize with.
- My wife also allowed me to rapidly accelerate my career. Early in our relationship, before we had kids, I was able to take a very big risk by starting my own business because she could help supplement household income. I wouldn't have been able to do this at the time on my own. The business became very successful, she was able to take 6 years off while our 3 kids were young, and we are in a very comfortable place/on track to retire by 55.
This line of thinking is the opposite of an apex fallacy. People who say "all women are shit" are using shitty women as the norm. I suspect most men who have this view point have very little experience with women in the real world, vet women poorly, or they are pretty shitty men who can't attract a good partner.