I had the same problem but i figured out why.
Here are some reasons:
- Most people find it hard to organise anything. Not anyone is meant for a leader. They always wait on others and if not then they dont do shit basically.
- When they gather without you, its because the person who organises it either forgot about you or just doesnt see you that close.
- Dont be pussies, be dominant. When you organise something state the exact date and time. Invite people you want. You did your part, its up to them whether they show up or not.
- Dont be scared to invite yourself to places. Call person youre closest to and ask if theyre out or where are they. If they say theyre out ask if you can come as well. They will most likely say yes.